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There should really be something called VDAS or Valentine’s Day Anxiety Syndrome.

That the history of Valentine’s is rather obscure is not the point anymore… since the celebration of Valentine’s Day has developed a life of its own through the ages and has now evolved into an enormous social pressure to find romance and love, or to couple up.

For singles, Valentine’s Day serves to unflatteringly highlight one’s current solitary state and might incite some feelings of inadequacy, sorrow, or bitterness about one’s situation.

For couples, Valentine’s Day serves to flatteringly or unflatteringly benchmark the state of the relationship and there would undoubtedly be a lot of pressure surrounding or preceding the day itself–so much so that the pressure to celebrate the holiday itself precipitates misunderstandings and/or break-ups due to the high social expectations which surround the holiday.

All these considered, it might pay to step back for a while and give some thought to the original non-commercial intent of the holiday which revolves around the sentiments of love and romance.

It might pay to keep in mind that we should not let a mere holiday undermine our self-identity, self-esteem, and relationships.

As humans, we are, as it should be, more relevant than the non-entity–the  occasion or holiday we are celebrating–which is in this case, Valentine’s Day.

It is the holiday of Love after all–so why can’t we celebrate it by loving ourselves and others around us a bit more?

(c) Niconica 2011*

*does not include the image/s

A lot of time and effort has been expended wondering about the nature of love and the reasons for love – and there are as many explanations are there are blades of grass in a field.  They are myriad and inconclusive.

Each definition carries a grain of truth – but not the whole truth and it depends on the people involved and the nature of their experiences.

All this would go to show that there is no good reason for falling in love – people just do.  People fall in love for all sorts of reasons which they are unable to comprehend or make sense of.

Falling in love is irrational and should be recognized as such since at times – there are a million good reasons for falling in love and yet we don’t; while during other times, there are no good reasons present for falling in love with someone and yet we find ourselves swimming in love’s embrace without knowing quite how or why.

Love is illogical and it just happens.  When it finds us, we have no choice but to either surrender to it – or resist with all our might… only to succumb to it in the end.

Happy Heart’s Day!

(c) Niconica 2011*

*does not apply to the images