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I was at Book Sale and I came upon a copy of this book You Just Don’t Understand: Women & Men in Conversation” by Deborah Tannen, Ph.D. – and funny enough, it was just what I needed at the time. As we get older, the more set we are in our ways and we begin to harbor the illusion that we know so much about the world–just because we’ve lived a bit… There’s something to be said for trial and error, but why go through the needless and avoidable pain when one can read up on the subject and have a better chance of avoiding the pitfalls of miscommunication–providing one reads, absorbs, and applies the guidelines judiciously. It cannot be said enough that with communication: context is key.

I highly recommend this book to anyone who is in a relationship,  planning to be in a relationship, on their way to being in a relationship, or considering being in a relationship.  However, in saying all this, this book is not exclusive to people who are interested in relationships, the insights shared are also applicable to anyone who is interested in gender relations, linguistics, and social interactions. Humans might, arguably, be created equal but men and women really come from different psychological and emotional places in many ways and this fact reflects in their communication styles, and may result in creating certain levels of tension and misunderstanding, which could be avoidable if we just did our homework.

It is not wonder this book has been a hailed a “#1 International Bestseller.” A must-read!

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Thanks to the folks at and Plinky, I’ve got something new to write about.  Even though I’ve signed up for the weekly posting option, I still would like to post as often as I can.  Heaven knows, writing muscles get toned with frequent exercise… and I could stand being a bit more disciplined in this regard.

And… drumroll, please… my personal preference is…  texting!  Don’t get me wrong, I’m as chatty as the next person when in good company…  However, it still stands that on an average day, my main mode of communication with people would be texting, followed by chatting, and if need be, a phone conversation.

There’s something less intrusive about texting (presuming that the text alert tone is not akin to a siren) – since, it’s basically people leaving messages which we can answer at our own pace, without breaking stride for most part of the day.

Texting is also provides an avenue for us to compose our thoughts properly (if we choose to take the time) instead of just blurting out whatever is on our mind.  It is true that it might lack the level of dynamism, authenticity, connection, and contact of talking, but it provides a safe, manageable, and productive distance which might be more suitable to a faster paced lifestyle.

My preference for texting should not mean that texting should replace phone calls altogether since personal or voice contact is also essential in fostering more authentic human relationships.

(c) Niconica 2010*

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