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It probably holds true for all humans that failure is not a welcome experience, and yet it occurs with or without our permission.  The best of us are more flexible and able to view the failure as a manifestation of life’s impermanence and move on, but to some of us, who are more doggedly set on our expectations coming to fruition, failure is probably one of the hardest experiences to muster–probably at par with rejection.

Failure comes in many ways and for many reasons–it is hardest when we have to acknowledge our contribution to the experience, as much as we may want to brush it off and place the blame on others or feign that we did not have a hand in it.  One of the hardest lessons of failure is that we are forced to come face to face with ourselves and the occurrence, and if we are wise, we must have a good hard look and find a way to not repeat the mistakes which lead to it.

If we try to digest the entirety of the failure, we will end up choking and probably suffering a serious depression or a mental breakdown.  As with many overwhelming experiences, it might be better to digest it a day at a time or an element at a time.  Where there are some factors which we may not come to terms with or justify, then we have to allow time to heal the wound so to speak.

We might not be as resilient as other people and it might take us a longer time to wallow and get over the experience.  One of the more important things to remember is that we must learn to forgive ourselves and let go.  This is, of course, easier said than done as we might keep ruminating about the past and wondering how and why, even with the best of intentions, we went wrong.  We might be completely baffled as to why the experience has turned out to be an experiment gone awry even with our best efforts and intentions.

Hindsight is 20/20 and if we are honest with ourselves, we would recognise that we are as fallible as the next person and we most likely have overlooked some little things along the way which eventually add up–a lot of small bad or mistaken decisions do add up to a monumental disaster and we were most likely either too preoccupied, too sure of ourselves, too closed minded, or too stubborn to have realised it.  Failure is a very humbling experience if we choose to learn from the lessons it brings us.

Repeating the sequence of events in our heads or wishing that we had known all along is one of the surest ways to not be able to move forward.  Failure requires us to have the resiliency and flexibility to acknowledge the facts and be able to move away from the past and stay in the present one day at a time until we move further into the future and have the courage to trust ourselves once again.

(c) Niconica 2015

When we discuss certain interactions with people, we categorise the interaction as having “Good Vibes” or “Bad Vibes” and there are some people who are too logical that they do not account for the gut feel or the vibes we get from people and they would wish for some logical evidence that the person is indeed good or bad.

However, when the evidence that the person is bad is already there, it is often already too late to avoid them or damage has already been done. It has to be said though that negative people would have good vibes with people who are likewise as negative as they are so this would have to be considered.

People with like vibrations often attract each other and become fast friends. Criminals and sociopaths often hang out with each other and enjoy each others company and let this be your guide that “Birds of the same feather are often the same birds.” Try to let go of your saviour complex and delusion that you would be able to save or reform such a person.

People who eventually harm us are able to do so because they present themselves in a manner which allows us to let down our guard. So the comment, “But he/she seems like a nice person.” is not valid in such cases. Predators are great with conserving their energy for the kill so if they are able to disarm the prey who willingly submits to them, all the better.

These people who eventually harm us irreparably often present themselves in such a benign manner that when they start turning up the toxicity, we often wonder whether we are imagining it. If they presented themselves in a manner which clearly outlines them as negative people capable of harming us, we would not even have let them in close enough to do any damage.

Even if the person presents themselves in such a charming, likeable, and harmless manner, we must consider our gut feel whether we get “Good Vibes” or “Bad Vibes” from them. If we feel uncomfortable for whatever reason, we must not proceed with abandon because we might end up regretting it. We often allow our five senses to deceive our better judgement.

It’s time to be more vigilant and make better emotional choices since the consequences of faulty emotional choices can be deadly.

(c) Niconica 2014

I’ve chanced upon the WordPress Post-A-Day / Post-A-Week challenge for 2011.  Ideally, I would really like to be able to post daily but realistically, it seems that it would be best if I joined the PostAWeek2011 challenge instead.

Gulp.  I’m feeling a bit nervous about accepting this challenge – but I reckon that perhaps this is the only way that I would be able to discipline myself with posting regularly on my blog and work out those writing muscles.

At any rate, joining the Post-A-Week challenge would cause me to write at least one blog a week – and, hopefully, even more once the juices start flowing.  Here’s to hoping!

Check out for daily writing ideas and suggestions for blogging regularly.  It says on their site that it’s an experiment in blogging motivation from the folks at  I think it’s awesome!

To join the challenge – check out this link:

Best of luck (and hard work) to all of us!


(c) 2011 Niconica*

*Again, this copyright applies to the text of this blog – not the photo.

Being unfamiliar with owls, I was rather worried as to how I would be able to tell one character apart from the other – but during the course of watching The Legend of the Guardians: The Owls of Ga’Hoole the different characters came alive in a most charming, endearing, and memorable way.  No sooner than in the first few minutes of the movie did the story and the characters come alive and envelope me in their embrace.  It felt like I was there, sharing their struggles and triumph.

It was an enjoyable albeit classic tale of good vs. evil, though this one had the added bitter taste of sibling rivalry and betrayals just to complicate the issue.  Let us not forget that the value of valor, strength of character, and pureness of spirit were reflected as well. The main protagonist Soren embodied all these traits, along with being an adorable dreamer – and though it might sound a bit too good to be true, who doesn’t enjoy a good tale where the good guy is a hero through and through?  We sure need more people who embody Soren’s traits in the world.

The Legend of the Guardians is definitely an amusing and inspiring, feel-good tale for the whole family!

(c) Niconica 2010

Inception” was entertaining and action-packed, though perhaps lacking a certain something to make it poignant.  Nevertheless, it can still be considered at the top of the science fiction field – for the revolutionary concept of dream invasion.  The ending can be slightly frustrating for people who long for a definitive and concrete positive resolution.

The visual effects were amazing and breathtaking for sure, though the length of the film might make some feel that the plot, as brilliant as it is, seemed to have been overstretched.

The movie “Inception” would be worth watching for the stunning imagery and the progressive science fiction concept..  Christopher Nolan‘s idea for Inception is definitely innovative – bring the whole science fiction movie genre into a whole new level.

(c) Niconica 2010

We have now come to the end of an era… as part 1 of Book 7 of the famous Harry Potter series is shown on the big screen.  I had rather thought that it would have a serious action/horror feel about it when I watched it so I found myself pulled in both ways before watching it.  I wanted to watch it because I am a professed Harry Potter fan but at the same time, I dreaded watching it because I knew, from reading the books, that the violence,  casualties and losses were about to mount up and I wasn’t sure whether my nerves could take it all being portrayed on the big screen in a grandiose manner.  I am glad that I was mistaken.

The setting was stark and sombre but without an exaggerated action feel.  One does not feel as though one has been catapulted into a series of pure action sequences, but instead, one finds oneself on a fast-paced subtly sentimental journey in this coming-of-age  film.  The loss of their innocence as they come face to face with very real dangers and consequences signifies a step further into adulthood as they leave child’s play behind.  Decisions must be made in the face of increasing pressure, as the stakes soar higher and higher.

I would have preferred that the movie not have been divided into two parts.  The story would have been more cohesive and been appreciated better in one go, instead of cutting it off just when things were getting good.  I recognize the financial advantages for the producers in splitting it into two  though – as well as the notion of making a good thing last as long as it can, before it inevitably ends. However, as an avid fan, it just feels more disjointed to be watching Part 2 next year – jumping in right in the middle… when the impact of the hefty volume of Harry Potter and The Deathly Hallows would have been felt more strongly if it had been covered in one go.

Aside from this, it was, all in all, an enjoyable film – poignant but not melodramatic, haunting but not grisly, serious but not severe, and definitely not devoid of some much-needed key moments of humor – altogether fitting for the beginning of the end.

(c) Niconica 2010

I’ve come across a very likeable lady, Bina, who is doing numerology and crystal reading and it was interesting… and accurate.  It’s not a crystal ball reading as has been popularized by media.

It consists of taking a handful for tumbled crystals in your hand, closing your hands around them, concentrating on the query, then dropping them onto the velvet-like fabric with lines and words on them and reading the configuration of the crystals based on where they have ended up.  It’s almost logical when you think about it.

She also does numerology based on birthdays and again, I would have to say that it has been quite accurate.  It’s nothing mind-blowing but I would say that it would be worth trying it out to get some insight into yourself or issues which are weighing on your mind.

Regarding payment – they say that it is by donation only though if you’re wondering what the ballpark figure would be – P300 would be fine.  She lives in Quezon City and her contact details are: 0917-8377068 and 7030408.

(c) Niconica 2010

*This is not a paid review or advertisement.

When I do get the chance to go to a mall, the first place I find myself heading to is the bookstore.  It has been this way since I can remember.  I remember when I was young, I used to save up my allowance and scrimp on buying merienda (snacks) just to be able to buy the book I had in mind for the week.  It is as if I would wither away without a steady diet of books.

It has happened that I’ve gone into a bookstore and was not able to find any book which spoke to me, which I feel that really must have. While it meant that there would be no extra expenditure for books, I would feel rather disappointed, since there’s something about being able to find a new book to devour.

Recently, I have had the good fortune to come across several interesting books which have struck my fancy.  I’ve placed them on hold and I’m planning to pick them up soon! I can’t wait! I don’t know if other book lovers will agree with me, but each new book promises a whole new experience with unique insights and ideas.

As of late, I have tended towards non-fiction books, and while I still do have some room for reading fiction, I am more sparing with my choices.  Some days when schedules have been rather full on and I have been unable to manage to read a couple of paragraphs or even a chapter of a book, I almost feel unsettled and restless, as if exhibiting symptoms of withdrawal.

It would not be unusual to find me reading five books at a time, jumping from one to the next, grateful for the invention and existence of bookmarks.  There’s just something graceful about a well constructed sentence.  There’s something profound about a well-articulated thought.  There’s something magical about the world of ideas which each book invites us to explore.

Reading is an avenue by which I indulge in the my version of man’s quintessential search for meaning.  There is a certain sense of satisfaction with the successful search and acquisition of choice titles.

The anticipation of the enjoyment of new words and concepts are complemented by a genuine appreciation for the melodic symphony of intellect, logic, emotions, and experience.  This is accompanied by the realization that there are so many books, and so little time…

As such, I hereby proclaim myself a certified bookaholic – and have created a badge to prove it!

(c) Niconica 2010

When is Enough Really Enough? How many repeated apologies with questionable sincerity does it take for us to get the point?  How many repeated offenses and feeble excuses do we have to swallow before it gets to the point that we feel that it is already too much?

I walk the fine line between compassion and practicality.  When people have gone through so much trauma in their lives, is it fair for them to take it out on other people?  When we are the people they take it out on – we become the prey.  In such cases, it is sometimes hard to figure out where patience ends and stupidity begins.

There’s a fine line between being a tolerant person and being an idiot and when we find ourself in this gray area, its hard to tell where we stand.  When we allow people to repeatedly verbally, emotionally, psychologically, and/or physically abuse us, we are perpetrating gross negligence towards ourselves.

When we allow other people to get away with virtually anything less than decent behavior and short of any major crime, it is irresponsible behavior on our part.  It is irresponsible behavior towards ourselves, for are we not the wardens of our own well-being?

If we as much as defend ourselves or at the very least set boundaries, it is not about changing people’s minds, dictating their behavior, meting out punishment or taking revenge on people.  It is about respecting ourselves enough that we do not allow people to treat us like rubbish – without treating them like dirt as well.

It’s not about rallying people to crucify a certain person or to initiate an exercise in self-righteousness which might turn into a witch hunt.  It is simply about knowing and loving ourselves enough to set boundaries for what we allow others to say and do to us… and learning to leave, to disengage, and to walk away – to basically not be present in questionable company to allow such behavior – when it is already too much – indeed, when enough is enough.

(c) Niconica 2010

So, the Globe Wimax option didn’t pan out and while I did consider getting SmartBro, I ended up going for the Sun Wireless Broadband option since it seemed that Smart Bro’s signal is erratic to nonexistent in our area – or so I’ve heard from some friends who live in the neighborhood.

Despite the fact that it was strange that Sun would have better signal than SmartBro, I did not give this any further thought as Sun Broadband didn’t only offer signal availability but also a fast and convenient sign-up policy, and a monthly unlimited internet access with only a 3 month lock in period (which is of course not specified in their brochure) for P799/month  as opposed to the two-year long lock in period for Smart and/or Globe.

The plan named “Easy Broadband 799” held true since there were no credit checks, no further hassles.  The optional USB modem costs P888.

Sun Broadband Wireless seemed like the way to go since both Globe Tattoo and SmartBro postpaid wireless internet plans included the hassle of waiting for the standard credit checks to pull through which could be easily a week to two weeks on top of the 24-month contract one is locked in to when one avails of a postpaid plan.

After a few weeks in Internet Siberia, acquiring Sun’s Wireless Broadband seemed like a great idea since it appeared to be the best option among the wireless USB internet service providers, however, I was not prepared for how slow, frustrating, unstable, and inconsistent the connection would be.

So, it seems that while Sun Wireless Broadband was a very marginally satisfactory stopover (if at all) and it seems that the search continues for the most suitable internet connection which might most likely be the traditional wired DSL connection…

So, then again, the cards are back on the table, in terms of the DSL internet connection – will it be PLDT, Globe, Smart, SUN, or Bayantel? Stay tuned…

(c) Niconica 2010