I have been away for a way, not a vacation or a holiday–I wish. I have been mentally, emotionally, physically, and psychologically overwhelmed for the past few months and it’s been quite a journey, I am not even sure whether to begin. Each time I write a blog entry, I keep thinking I’ll be able to sustain the momentum and write at least one entry weekly but sometimes, life gets in the way. It’s been a bumpy ride so far and there is definitely more fodder for discourse for the blog.
Sometimes, that’s all we end up gaining from bad experiences–the lessons to discuss, to remember, and to share with people, because there is nothing we can do to change things. It is how it is. One of the lessons that I’ve learned is that wide-eyed idealism and being naive catches up with us in the end, especially in a poverty-stricken country like the Philippines. We keep thinking that it’s as simple as giving jobs or opportunities to the people who need it but we do not consider the flip side of the equation where hiring people who are in such a state, we end up having to deal with their erroneous habits and thinking.
We also subject ourselves for manipulation, trickery, and theft because they are that poverty-stricken that they seem to have the faulty assumption that it is the only way to get ahead. There is so much media coverage on the nobleness of being in poverty and how the wealthy are the ones who exploit the underprivileged and it really sells as a viable plot line and appeals to the mental archetypes in our head and therefore a lot of movies and books tout this view however reality is a bit more complicated than that.
If we keep on raising up the underprivileged and poverty-stricken on pedestals as though they can do no wrong, because they are already at a position where it will not be politically-correct to criticise them, then we place ourselves in a very blinkered perspective where we do not consider the whole story. In order to address an issue, we must not be afraid to look at it and tackle it head on–starting with the reality that there is the tendency that people who are raised in a chaotic and poverty-stricken environment will have to adopt some tendencies and mindset to survive a very tough childhood, upbringing, and neighbourhood, and they bring this thinking into the workplace.
There are many stories where the employers or business owners are manipulated, fooled, cheated, tricked, and embezzled from by these employees, but the excuse of the perpetrators are often the very salable lines that it is because they are financially challenged and had no other choice but to engage in dishonest behaviours and that they are the ones who are the victims. They turn the whole story around and make the employers the villains, and this is swallowed up by the mass psyche.
I would call this tendency manipulative self-pity. This has often been used as an excuse to get away with murder and vilify people who are more privileged and it’s just a way to passive aggressively express envy and hostility. These psychological tendencies need to be addressed in order to move the country forward because if such personalities and attitudes are allowed to thrive, there would be more chaos and crime, and getting away with murder so to speak.
We here a lot of these supposedly maligned people spread their stories onto the media, we hardly hear or give proper platform to the other side of the story where it is the business owners or employers who often get the short end of the stick, because it is not popular to criticise or bring up the habits and tendencies of the underprivileged because they already have their poverty to deal with and we would not be good people if we add to it, therefore we all turn a blind eye to this area which needs to be addressed if we wish to move forward.
(c) Niconica 2015