I’m seriously wondering why this book isn’t on the bestseller list.  It was published in 2011 (upon googling it and finding the information on Amazon.com) and it is one of the better books that I’ve read.  The self-help genre gets a lot of bad jokes but aside from this book being fit for the psychology section in the book shop, it would benefit many people to find it in the self-help genre because we it behooves us to help ourselves as much as we can–after all, we are in the best position to do so, even if we may not feel that way.

I don’t understand why people joke about all the self-help books, as though we are all clued up as to how to deal with life.  We are basically meandering around in confusion trying to figure things out the best that we could and there is no crime in perusing the self-help section and finding gems among the wide selection of pop-psychology books found in this section.

The term ‘dysfunctional’ applies to many families and it’s not supposed to be a flippant phrase that we toss around as though it is harmless.  Being from a dysfunctional family carries more weight than mere criticism.  It is not a joke and has serious repercussions–of equal gravity to actual physical dysfunction or disease.  It is something which affects who we are now and who we will become.  Beyond self-centeredness, we must take seriously that whether we want it or not, we affect other people and they affect others.

If the pain, hate, and trauma of being from a loveless/dysfunctional family causes part of our souls to be corrupted, it is something to address before the rot spreads to other parts of our lives–our friendships, our romantic relationships, our work relationships and our future offspring.  The damage caused in growing up with horrible relatives cannot simply by contained arbitrarily, it needs to be dissected and digested in order to be able to overcome it and claim our lives back from being devoured by our past.

It is in this light that this book is a treasure in discussing the different characters whom we encounter in our family or extended families–and we may take comfort that we were not simply imagining that certain relatives were less than stellar. This book arms us somehow and comforts us–it was not too awful of us to avoid less than pleasant interactions with relatives because it does happen that blood sometimes is muckier than water aside from the fact that it is ‘thicker than water’.

Two thumbs-up! A must-read for our own sanity and psychological health.

(c) Niconica 2013