One day we shall all have a better theoretical and experiential grasp of temporal mechanics, but until then, in our limited frame of reference that is, time is linear and it only moves one way–forward, from past towards the future.

Though even the youngest of our species understand this, we haven’t really accepted it because we have a penchant for pining after our past glories. Everything always seems less harsh, and therefore better than ot actually was, through the lenses of memory because the passage of time has a numbing effect upon us.

Even if time is a natural anesthesia for our past pains, we must bear in mind that anesthetics are artificial and dulls our perception of pain and we should try to keep a healthy perspective about what has been–whether it is our past victories or failures, we must not be tempted to escape into the past or be haunted by it.

Past events have their place in our memories and it is to mark events which have occurred and contributed to our present and even if we know that we cannot change the past, we have to be kept on being reminded that there is no turning back with most things. We seem to conveniently forget this fact to our emotional and psychological detriment.

It is of no avail to relive the glory days of the past because the person we once were does not exist anymore, nor does it benefit us to torment and flagellate ourselves about past mistakes and misdeeds because they cannot be undone. This is not to say that past experiences are irrelevant and may be overlooked entirely, but merely to state that the past has its own place in our frame of reference.

The minute that we forget that our memories serve to guide us with becoming a better person whether it maybe improving upon our compassionate contribution upon humanity or to remind us which weaknesses we must work upon or which strengths we must continue to build upon as well as which mistakes we must seek to rectify and avoid making again, and which misdeeds require the asking of forgiveness from others as well as ourselves so that we may be able to move forward in a less damaged manner, we end up in a less optimum state of mind and selling ourselves–our humanity and our potential to learn and grow–short.

It’s true, there is no turning back, yet it doesn’t mean we cannot look back once in a while just to make sure we have a frame of reference and that we are on the right track as we move forward to fulfill our vast potential.

(c) Niconica 2013

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