We are constantly told not to judge a book by its cover and yet we do, we can’t help it. As long as we possess the five senses, we will always be enticed by things (or people) which look good, smell good, or have a nice voice.

Appearances may even deceive our gutfeel especially since anyone who possesses the physical characteristics we typically associate with good character or kindness would bypass our logic and better judgement.

We will have to learn and relearn time and again that how a person appears is not a reliable indicator of their character, instead we must look at their actions and words–if they do match or if through continued interaction, they start displaying signs of narcissism, egomaniacal or cruel behavior.

All this cannot be accurately surmised at first glance especially when the person’s “packaging” is visually appealing, we immediately associate pleasing appearances with goodness and we must constantly be vigilant that having pleasant manners does not mean that the person possesses true integrity and virtue.

In fact, the opposite is often the case. People who possess above average physical attractiveness are less wont to develop good character and compassion simply because many things and people come more easily to them, thus removing the incentive to examine oneself, develop and improve one’s flaws in order to have better interaction with others.

We must keep this in mind as we are flashed a winsome smile and supplicated with charming words that what lies beneath the surface may not be of the same quality.

(c) Niconica 2013

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