Love should be uncomplicated. Relating with our significant other should be uncomplicated. More often than not, it’s not as simple as we wish it to be, especially during the initial stages when we are trying to find out where we stand with the other.

It almost feels like we’re playing emotional poker where we try to figure out the other person’s hand without revealing our own until we are sure of theirs. This is where it gets complicated–all our defense mechanisms and issues coming into play.

It should be just as simple as expressing interest in each other and discussing where it’s heading instead of prolonging the interaction with tricks, distancing, and evasion just to bounce back again with expressions of interest.

It shouldn’t be about games and delays and confusing and mixed signals because this way it can get convoluted and ultimately, messy. It could be straightforward and romantic instead of drawn out and torturous, but sometimes, it isn’t because one person prefers to play around and is hesitant to even approach anything which might spell commitment.

In this case, it’s best to cut our losses and head for the nearest exit if we’re lucky enough to still have our heart intact. If not, then we better hope that we survive the experience with the least damage possible.

(c) Niconica 2012

Advertisements