When we fancy someone enough, we are fully capable of generating an extrapolated love affair with them in our minds. We can easily skew their undetermined responsiveness to our bids for attention as reciprocity of our feelings when they could be viewing it merely as friendship.

Unless there is a direct declaration of interest from the object of our interest even if they may appear to possibly be flirting with us, they still have the element of deniability where they can claim that all was done in friendly fondness or whatnot even if these statements sound like excuses.

We must keep in mind not to escalate the love story we are weaving in our minds with every deniable interaction with the object of our intense affections because unless more solid indications of affection arise… Notes, SMS, FB, Twitter, and MySpace messages are merely words which can be misinterpreted or misunderstood.

A self-generated love affair might sound preposterous but it is very real and it can happen to the best of us when we are in the throes of infatuation and the conclusions we draw might be biased and unsound and lead us down a potential painful road. Avoiding this is easier said than done, of course, but we must attempt to be vigilant and not allow our feelings to lead us astray.

(c) Niconica 2012

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