We all fear rejection and for good reason. It comes as no surprise that we are slow to accept the fact that we have been rejected by someone. Our sense of self-preservation causes us to deny what is happening. This coping mechanism while immediately kind is ultimately cruel to us.

We must get past that denial and eventually realise that rejection by any other name is still what it is: rejection. If we try to sugar coat it and whitewash it, we merely prolong engaging in the appropriate stages of grief as we bid our frustrated desires goodbye.

This is the only way we would learn to heal and move on: by staring reality in the face, feeling the pain, and eventually coming to grips with it. There is nothing to be gained by prolonging our stay in a situation where we are not welcome, nor should we desire to do so.

(c) Niconica 2012