The initial stages of romance is fraught with uncertainty and mixed signals as both parties try to figure out what is going on and how they feel about each other.

It’s filled with the thrill of discovering something new and the heady rush of infatuation that we don’t pay heed to the possible dangers which lay ahead.

As they say about best-laid plans, we may think that we’ll have everything in control but where emotions are involved it’s not as simple or straightforward as we would like it to be.

The stage of uncertainty has it’s perks because it doesn’t require the nitty gritty negotiation of particulars which is required by an actual relationship.

This is actually the best and worst part of romance because of the highs and the lows and the potentiality as well as the risk of rejection and heartbreak.

In a rapid-paced world, we might want to quickly bypass this stage and seal the deal so to speak, but this stage is the priming stage and is important to the potential relationship.

Having the romantic pre-dating stage might sound adolescent but it’s the stage where it’s still all light, frothy, and effervescent…

It’s where the tricky logistics of reality hasn’t found it’s way to shine the harsh light of reality on the situation. It’s the time where daydreams can take free reign.

It might be that it won’t turn out the way we want it to, that the interaction does not escalate to the level where a relationship is formed and it’s not going to be pleasant but when we’ve been bitten by the love bug, we can’t help but give it a try and step forward and take the risk…

Because we can’t help it and because we think that the so-called pot at the end of the rainbow just might be actually worth it, whether or not facts actually do support it.

(c) Niconica 2012

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