Why is “Goodbye” referred to as “good” when there are times when there is nothing good about a goodbye? As much as we don’t want to, sometimes, it is time for it, and when the time is right, we just know it.

Sometimes a complicated situation has dragged on long enough and we value our sanity too much to let it continue and it’s time to pull the plug on it.  The question is how to do it.

Simply because the situation is undefined and complicated, it’s not as simple as formally bidding farewell.  So, we could either say something stupid, pick a fight to ruin situation or we could gradually tiptoe out the room (or interaction) and gradually disappearing never to be heard from again.

Both ways don’t seem to be the best way to go about it, it certainly doesn’t sound like what a mature adult would do. The first way is downright immature and damaging and the second way reeks of escapism, but is probably more common because it probably seems the most unobtrusive and seems the easiest way out in a manner of speaking.

Which goes back to the discussion of the formal goodbye which might come off too presumptuous or provoke many defense mechanisms in one or both of the people in the conversation.

Down to the heart of the matter, there is no easy way to say goodbye and we can only hope that hurt can be minimized as much as possible where both parties are involved.

It cannot be assumed that the damage will only be incurred by the person being ‘left’ so to speak because it could be possible that the person being ‘left’ has said or done many things to provoke the walking away of the other person for their own sake.

It can be the case that the pain would be borne by the person who is walking away since perhaps the person does not want to leave but knows that it is time to be moving on because the situation is not going anywhere and further engaging in it would only lead to further deteriorating the emotional climate.

To rephrase, goodbyes are difficult but there are situations when it is undeniable that it is necessary, relevant, and/or the best course of action considering all the factors involved.

Nothing is permanent and everything has an expiration date, some relationships/connections/friendships/whatever just have a use-by date sooner than others.

(c) Niconica 2011*

*does not apply to image/s

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