It’s not as simple as flicking a switch on and off.  It starts with simple conversations, chats, and/or e-mails and these seemingly benign interactions lead our affections to be caught in a situation where there is no easy way out.

It used to be that any indication of conflict lead me to conclude that the potential romantic situation is not viable, however, as the situation progresses, it doesn’t seem to follow that we can pull ourselves out as we think we should.

It seems that simple logic does not apply when it comes to matters of the heart. This irrational train of thought is what keeps us enmeshed in a situation long after its expiration date.

Somehow after the arguments have passed, when we think back on them, they don’t seem as horrible as they actually were–and this could actually be a blessing or a curse, depending on how everything plays out.

While we try to figure out the mystery as to why we allow ourselves to stay enmeshed in the situation–no matter how good or bad–we get some inkling that perhaps there are some factors or elements in the situation which serves our purpose consciously or subconsciously.

In prolonging or sustaining the situation, there might be something in it that feeds us–and it’s hard to admit this, but we would eventually realize that in coming clean with ourselves with our motivations would be a step towards the truth–as beautiful or as ugly as it may be–and perhaps lead us to greater self-understanding or maybe eventually, to emotional freedom.

(c) Niconica 2011*

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