While it’s easy for people to grasp the idea that actions can do damage. It is often overlooked that words carry weight and incur consequences.  And this so-called “harmless flirting” falls into the same category since words and/or actions are employed in doing so.

If the title does not suffice to make the point, I’ll say it again: There is no such thing as harmless flirting.  When one gets rejected, caught out, or stuck in a tight spot in one way or another, it’s easy to chalk things off as “harmless” but know that saying it does not cause harm, does not mean that it doesn’t, especially when there are feelings involved.

Toying with people’s emotions in a flippant manner does not only show a blatant disregard for others but also manifests poor emotional discipline.This manner of operation leaves a trail of broken hearts on all fronts and should not be condoned.  Of course, it is easier said than done when we are caught in the pangs of infatuation.

The phrase “harmless flirting” is also often employed by people who are in committed relationships when they want to excuse their inexcusable behavior when they indulge in dalliances on the side.  It’s only “harmless” until someone gets hurt–and sooner or later, someone always does.

The next time someone brings this up as a “reason” for their selfish and self-indulgent behavior as an excuse to feed their egos and consciously or unconsciously break hearts… be very aware of the kind of person one is dealing with… It’s definitely not someone worth wasting more precious time and energy on.

(c) Niconica 2011*

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