Just because we happen to fall into relationships or find ourselves in relationships by a series of events or another, it does not immediately mean that we have the necessarily skills to navigate, maintain, and optimize our relationships. We take for granted that we automatically will figure it out as we go along or that we’ll learn as we go along… and learning by trial and error can cost us the whole relationship.

Just because we find ourselves having access to or being able to buy a car, it does not automatically mean we have the skills to drive.  We actually take the time and effort to learn how to drive officially or unofficially before we take the wheel–otherwise, mishaps have a greater chance of happening.

It is the same way with relationships and it’s a pity that relationships skills are not part of K-12 education… and we are paying the price for it with higher rates of divorce, separation, and marital/relationship strife which might have been avoidable had we been equipped with the right know-how.

Funnily enough, if and when we do take time to pause before running headlong into the search for the next romantic partnership, we would find that there are a lot of resources available to this effect. However, it would seem that by the time we are aware enough to stroll to the self-help section of the bookstore or to a psychologist’s office, the damage has already been done and as trite as it may sound, the saying, “An ounce of prevention is better than a pound of cure.” applies.

We must not be arrogant enough to assume that simply being born human and having emotions is automatically confers us with competent relationship skills. It is simply not so. Instead of looking around and finding fault with another or others, we must first look within ourselves and try to attempt some emotional and psychological housekeeping.

The way the world is going at the moment, it would almost be helpful to suggest that screening must be done before allowing people to go into relationships and even more screening to be done before allowing people to have children.  The capability to procreate is not proof of being able to be an able parent. As difficult as it may be, there really should be a line which should be drawn somewhere.  However, I digress.

I shall be featuring a series of reviews of books which discuss relationship skills soon.

Stay tuned!

(c) Niconica 2011*

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