There should really be something called VDAS or Valentine’s Day Anxiety Syndrome.

That the history of Valentine’s is rather obscure is not the point anymore… since the celebration of Valentine’s Day has developed a life of its own through the ages and has now evolved into an enormous social pressure to find romance and love, or to couple up.

For singles, Valentine’s Day serves to unflatteringly highlight one’s current solitary state and might incite some feelings of inadequacy, sorrow, or bitterness about one’s situation.

For couples, Valentine’s Day serves to flatteringly or unflatteringly benchmark the state of the relationship and there would undoubtedly be a lot of pressure surrounding or preceding the day itself–so much so that the pressure to celebrate the holiday itself precipitates misunderstandings and/or break-ups due to the high social expectations which surround the holiday.

All these considered, it might pay to step back for a while and give some thought to the original non-commercial intent of the holiday which revolves around the sentiments of love and romance.

It might pay to keep in mind that we should not let a mere holiday undermine our self-identity, self-esteem, and relationships.

As humans, we are, as it should be, more relevant than the non-entity–the  occasion or holiday we are celebrating–which is in this case, Valentine’s Day.

It is the holiday of Love after all–so why can’t we celebrate it by loving ourselves and others around us a bit more?

(c) Niconica 2011*

*does not include the image/s

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