We are often warned about people “bad people” and “enemies” but little information follows to help us identify the culprits.
As much as we would like that horrible people be identified as clearly as cartoon villains, we must be aware that these beings who have dark souls have perfected their disguise in order to victimize and subsequently harm more people. They are the “wolves in sheep’s clothing.”
These so-called undercover “wolves” are clever with masking their true intentions. It would be wise to pay attention to their actions more than their words–as it would not be surprising that their words would be artful and easy on the ears.
Through the course of knowing them, there would be little clues which seep out, but we are often guilty of participating in their trickery through our tendency to be denial when the telltale signs pop up, especially when we are the types who like to avoid conflict.
The conflict avoidance route usually does not lead to any favorable outcomes, and eventually the painful truth would come out since the “wolves” would be true to their nature and eventually “go for the kill”– whether it be going for our hearts, minds, souls, psyche, or self-esteem–and the undeniable and ugly truth is starting us in the face.
When (and not if) this situation comes to pass… it would be best to put our foot down and not allow the predators to hurt us further by remaining in contact with them or in their general vicinity. We must not allow for or provide any opportunity for them to further exploit our kindness (and/or stupidity).
Engaging them further would be a further waste of time since there is nothing we can do to change anyone (and any illusions towards the contrary is ill-advised). It would not be advisable to argue or “discuss” matters with them nor would it be beneficial to “make them understand”.
Accepting their habitual and well-crafted apologies would be hazardous to our well-being since it would lead us back into the vicious cycle–and it’s anyone’s guess as to when we’ll be able to emerge from it in one piece–or at all.
What to do then? Cut off all ties and contact to abhorrent individuals such as these. Let go, live your own life, and be vigilant so that this unfortunate situation may not occur again with the same–or another–“wolf in sheep’s clothing.”
(c) Niconica 2011*
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